Invitation Letter from Young Lee Hertig
Death and end-of-life matters are very very difficult to discuss within Asian cultures. According to one statistics, only 4% of Asian Americans have utilized hospice care. Yet this is such an important fact of life that all of us will eventually face with family and for ourselves. How to face this reality with grace and sensitivity? Here’s some helpful tips from Dr. DongMei Wang — via Hospice Matters: a Newsletter for Family and Friends of Hospice (Spring 2013) published by Montgomery Hospice in Montgomery County, Maryland ::
Hospice Discussions with Asian Patients by Dr. DongMei Wang
- Many people from Asian cultures think death is a bad thing, and that anything linked to death is bad luck. They do not want to talk about death among family members.
- Respect for the elderly is an important part of many Asian cultures. As part of this respect, it is not uncommon for Asian adult children to hide a terminal illness diagnosis from their parents.
- Most Asian patients are not familiar with hospice care, as it is so rare in their country of origin.
- In general, Asian patients have less knowledge about the American medical system.
- Dying in a hospital is considered acceptable or the norm in Asian culture.
- Many Asians expect to receive medical treatment until they die. They may want to try anything and everything to help when there is a poor prognosis.
- Language barriers exist for many Asian patients and families.
- Do not rush. Set up a time and sit down with the patient and his or her family.
- Use an interpreter if you don’t speak their language.
- Get the family’s permission first before releasing a bad diagnosis to the patient.
- Emphasize quality of life rather than quantity of life.
- Learn about the family’s attitude towards hospice. Understand and respect a different culture’s approach towards end-of-life issues.
- Explain the benefit of pain control.
- Explain the benefit of getting service at home.
- Explain the benefit of stress relief for family members.
- Explain that the patient can keep his or her current doctor.
- Be open to alternative types of medicine.
It’s now public knowledge. My name is DJ Chuang and I have bipolar disorder. It took me a long time to seek professional care for my mental health. Here’s what the Orange County Register article, O.C. exports Asian American churches to the world, described:
Chuang has bipolar disorder. He has been successfully treated for the condition since 2001. But he attributes his numerous career changes and intellectual restlessness, in part, to manic episodes.
His periods of depression, he said, brought him near suicide. And they convinced him that helping Asian American churches become more culturally inclusive is tantamount to a life-or-death calling.
“It’s very hard for Asians to talk about their weaknesses,” Chuang said, explaining why he waited years before publicly acknowledging his condition and seeking treatment.
Chuang said traditional Asian American churches are especially inhospitable to painful personal problems because many Asian cultures prize a veneer of stoic hard work and moral respectability.
“I want to bring churches into a place to deal more honestly with the real person,” Chuang said.
“I would like to see Asian Americans become more healthy and whole as people.”
By posting here and on my personal blog djchuang.com, I am making myself available to you and to people you know who may be struggling with bipolar disorder or other kinds of mental illness. I am not a professional, but I am willing to offer a listening ear and to be an encourager and a friend. Contact me.
[cf. Julie J. Park]