When you are depressed, the tendency is to tell nobody (for whatever reason of shame or fear), or swing to the other extreme and tell everyone. Both are not helpful.
Here are some helpful tips below. In short, tell someone you can trust, someone who loves you and cares about you, someone who can support you.
From Whom In My Life Should I Tell About My Depression? by Nadine Kaslow, Ph.D. at abcnews.com
I think when somebody’s feeling depressed, they should tell the people that they know love them and care about them: people in their family, close friends, and trusted people at school like coaches, or counselors, or teachers.
They may choose to tell their clergy if they’re involved in extracurricular activities at school, they may tell the person who’s overseeing that as well. I don’t think you need to tell everybody you’re depressed — there’s no need to do that. But certainly, you want to tell people who can comfort you and support you.
Oftentimes when people are depressed, they don’t think anybody likes them or cares about them. And so when you’re thinking about who to tell, you should think about the people who you knew loved you and cared about you before you got depressed, because they still really do.
That’s on the personal level. But it’s a different thing to be talking about depression in your workplace where your performance may be in jeopardy. No easy answers there.
The Issue: Talking About Depression at Work – in Business Week
Should I Tell My Boss about My Depression? at DepressionSupportHelp.com
Other articles and discussions:
How do I tell someone I’m depressed? by Kristina Randle at PsychCentral
10 Ways to Help Yourself When Your Partner Is Depressed by John Folk-Williams
10 Ways to Help Someone Who’s Depressed via National Institute of Mental Health
Who Do You Tell About Your Depression? – discussion thread at DepressionForums.org